Romance In Marriage ~ God's Way!

(This was yesterday ~ After 16 1/2 years of marriage)

Sheila at "To Love Honor and Vacuum" wrote a post called, "Do Women Expect Endless Courtship?" and that got me thinkin!  So, go check out her post and her blog (It's amazing!).

This is what I had to say about her question (plus some):

Everyone has opinions of what a "good" marriage is ~ MYSELF included! ;)

BUT, what does God say? Well, actually, He has plenty to say about husbands and wives. If the two were doing to and with their spouse like He says, the argument of sex vs. love wouldn't be there.

If husbands "loved their wives in an understanding way" and "washed her with the Word" and "loved her as Christ loved the church" etc. etc. She wouldn't feel the need to turn elsewhere.  She wouldn't try to fill her days with activities to avoid going home.  She would RUN home everyday to be with her lover, protector, the one who cherishes her.

If wives didn't trash talk their husbands and they were "respected at the city gate" and if she respected him the way the Bible says and if she "didn't withhold" from him, his love tank would be overflowing.

It's so awesome that the Bible can be our standard on love, sex, friendship, romance, passion, and marriage! God thought all of this out beforehand!

Check out this verse:

Proverbs 5:19
A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

I am studying Song of Solomon in depth right now ~ talk about stirring up passion in marriage! That will do it! Talking about it together, that will do it too!  If more people turned to the Bible for their inspiration, maybe they wouldn't have a need to turn to porn.

Romance is all over the Bible. Love, respect, passion, friendship, sex ~ I could go on and on. If the churches would teach their married couples what the Bible says about these issues instead of just the typical ~ submission vs. respect argument ~ there wouldn't be a need for romance movies! LOL!

When the Bible is our standard and we try to do what it says in our marriages, watch out! The churches will be on fire! People will be fanning their flames of love and romance given to them by God Himself!

Hollywood would be going to the church for romance ideas!




^{Song of Solomon (The Message)
1:12-14} When my King-Lover lay down beside me,
   my fragrance filled the room.
His head resting between my breasts— 
the head of my lover was a sachet of sweet myrrh.

 ¹⁶And you, my dear lover—you're so handsome!
   And the bed we share is like a forest glen.

^2:3-4 As an apricot tree stands out in the forest,
   my lover stands above the young men in town.
All I want is to sit in his shade,
   to taste and savor his delicious love.
He took me home with him for a festive meal,
   but his eyes feasted on me!

6  His left hand cradles my head,
   and his right arm encircles my waist!

  ^16-17 My lover is mine, and I am his.

   Nightly he strolls in our garden,
Delighting in the flowers
   until dawn breathes its light and night slips away.    Turn to me, dear lover.
   Come like a gazelle.
Leap like a wild stag
   on delectable mountains!